Valentines Day is that one day of the year when we do something special for a loved one. But why wait for that one day a year? Why not do something special for a loved one every day?
Work, family demands, stress and worry can often mean that romance, or heaven forbid, sex, can often be the last thing on your mind even on Valentines Day. Poor nutrition can also affect your mood, self-esteem, and libido so work on the following to ensure that you are always in best physical and mental space to share some love and intimacy with your partner:
- Don’t overeat, especially at night: Our digestion at its strongest during the day so opt for a bigger lunch and eat lightly at night, ideally by 7.30pm. Vegetable based soups are nutritious and easy on the digestion.
- Eat as “cleanly” as possible – mostly veg (minimum of 5 portions per day), whole grains, some meat, fish, eggs, nuts, seeds, beans and lentils.
- Foods high in zinc are good for the libido – think of prawns, oysters, sunflower & pumpkin seeds, eggs, spinach. Other foods thought to have aphrodisiac qualities are avocado, asparagus, almonds, basil, bananas, figs, honey and – yippee! – chocolate.
- Drink 2 litres of non-sweetened, non-caffeinated liquid throughout the day. Dehydration causes fatigue, irritability, constipation, and a slower metabolism.
- Avoid caffeinated drinks which, though they might be great to get you going in the morning, may leave you feeling “tired and wired” by evening and affect the quality of your sleep.
- You are less likely to be in the mood for love if you are already sleep deprived. So practice “sleep hygiene”
- The bedroom should be for sleep and love only so remove all electrical equipment such as TV’s, computers, laptops, radio alarm clocks, mobile phones as the Electro Magnetic Frequencies (EMF’s) they emit can disturb or prevent sleep.
- Try not to use electrical equipment in the 2 hours before bed.
- Make sure your bedroom is quiet and dark – use black-out curtains and earplugs if necessary.
- The sleep you get before midnight is of a much more restorative quality than the sleep you get after midnight. Try to be in bed by 10, lights out by 10.30 at least 2 nights per week.
- Stress is a killer. It kills libido, desire for intimacy, and can kill you. Make time to unwind and de-stress. Try meditation, yoga, tai’chi. Get a massage or relaxing treatment. If you can do these things with your partner, so much the better.
- Support each other in your attempts to stay healthy. Shop and cook healthy meals together, join an exercise class or go to the gym together.
- Have a regular “date” day or evening (ideally once a week rather than once a year) when you do something special together to rekindle the romance.
- Keep the magic alive by making every meal a special meal. Rather than dinner on your lap in front of the telly, set the table, light a candle, put fresh flowers in a vase, take time to talk and really communicate.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!